"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Kenny, Travel Agent, Phnom Penh, Cambodia

by thegaymenproject

photos by Kevin Truong

Kenny, in his own words: "(Being gay) just means instead of having a girlfriend, I'll have a boyfriend. It's that simple to me.

The last eighteen years and a half have been a challenge for me. I'm not the smartest kid so I have always had to double the effort in everything that I do just to barely catch up with people. This has been true for almost twenty years of my life, and has been more true ever since I came out. (Greatest success) Finishing college and finishing my masters degree.

(With regards to coming out) (my parents) didn't yell. They were mad at for another reason at the time, because my grades in college weren't as I had expected. And then I came out to them, and at the time they didn't react as horribly as I thought they would. But over time, they went on to make clear their opinion on that matter, which is that they expect me to fulfill my duty, which is to get married and most importantly produce offspring. And I'm clear on their opinions, I'm not sure that I can meet it, and I'm sure that I cannot meet it.

In many ways (the gay community in Phnom Penh) bears some resemblance to the one in Thailand. It's still a new one, and it's vibrant, and they are searching for their own identity. All subcultures of gay men in Phnom Penh.

(With regards to advice to my younger self) Stop punishing yourself."