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Couple Of The Month [August]:
Todd & Jack

August 8, 2014


Meet our August Couple of the Month, Todd & Jack.  They have been together for over 28 years and married for 20.  They legalized their marriage in October of last year.  Todd & Jack has beat all odds when it comes to Gay & Interracial Relationships.  We admire their strength and commitment to making their marriage last forever.  Thanks guys for being an inspiration to us all and CONGRATS on being Couple of the Month!

Jack and Todd, 1986

When faced with conflict, how do you typically handle it?

Like any couples, we hash it out… sometimes rather arguably and sometimes rather straight forward… over the years, we have certainly learned to compromise a lot and that is a major cornerstone to a successful relationship for anyone.

What do you think is the most important aspect of your relationship that keeps you together?

Our differences as individuals… our differing backgrounds growing up… our experiences, etc…. – Individuality… allowing each other to be ourselves.

What advice would you give to a new couple?

Don’t go into it thinking that a relationship is easy… it takes a lot of work and commitment.

What would you say is the most challenging part of your relationship? How do you overcome it?

At the same time that the important aspect is allowing each other to be ourselves… individuality… it also presents challenges as well. But with anything hard work, commitment, and understanding are necessary to get through anything. If you are not willing to do the work, you will not see the desired results.

What would you say is the most rewarding part of your relationship? Why?

The wins… the successes… the blessings… We have certainly been through a lot together over the years and have seen a lot. We have certainly found a new perspective since getting legally married last year as with that came many changes, both minute and huge… Hard to explain unless you’ve been there… seen that, done that.

In your opinion, are lesbian relationships different from their gay counterparts? If so, why? If not, why not?

Hard to truly comment on this one as even though we know some lesbians, we really do not know any lesbian couples. We are sure that in many respects relationships are the same, but considering the dynamic of a gay relationship is two males versus two females for a lesbian relationship… that in itself presents it differences and challenges.

Why do you choose to stay in your relationship?

Interesting question… because it’s a lifetime partnership… relationship… marriage… and when you find your soul mate, you do not let go.

What is your stance on gay marriage?

Marriage equality is a must in this country and worldwide. For a long time, we have been using a saying “Love is Love”… and just saw the other another good one… #EqualLoveEqualRights. We fully support marriage equality for all. And by the way, really do not like the term “gay marriage” because it labels and applies a certain stigma to the movement for marriage equality.

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