"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Drexler, Stylist, Portland, Oregon

by thegaymenproject

Drexler, in his own words: "Being gay is just a minor facet of who I am. It means I'm attracted to the same sex and adds another notch of diversity even though I feel no greater difference than others.

Challenges I've had would be people assuming, especially my straight guy friends, that because I'm gay I'm automatically attracted to them or that I only like sports to check the guys out. Things of that nature. Being pinpointed in certain conversations based upon my sexuality. Also not being able to be completely open with family members of strict religious backgrounds in fear of judgement. Successes I've had would be my happiness which was a long struggle to fight for and to finally be happy is one of the greatest accomplishments of my life.

The gay community in Portland is small, catty, but underneath it all is very protective of one another. I have a crew that consists of gay straight lesbian bi and trans and we keep to ourselves and yet maintain our aquaintence and respect for the community.

(With regards to a coming out story) I don't really have one. Once I fully came out to myself I accepted it, told a friend who already had a hunch and it kind of slowly spread which initially pissed me off but I'm now grateful. There were people who literally stopped talking to me but that's their loss.

I would tell my younger self to eat less. Workout more. Don't cut your hair. Don't blow your money. And yes. It's perfectly normal and natural to be gay!"

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"Fear Eats the Soul"