"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Eric and Jeremi With Their Son Virgil, Brussels, Belgium by thegaymenproject

Photo by Kevin Truong

Photo by Kevin Truong

Jeremi, In His own words: What does being white gay mean to you?

This means clustering nothing in particular. Eric and I first got Consider Ourselves Human Beings, citoyens, People Involved in society Considering before us as gay. In Europe, Especially in countries like Belgium, there is little or no stigma against sexual orientation, so, we are free to be who we are. We feel no skirt being white French in Belgium than to be gay from straight people! HOWEVER, we Realize That This Was not always the case. So, if being white gay to mean anything Was, Would Be it through Took it to the Struggles lead decriminalize homosexuality and gain equality! This fight is not won, It was seen with the demonstrations against gay wedding in France. This is seen in Some countries Where are Persecuted Gay And Sometimes put to death. We know the path Took it and we aussi Realize browse the daily stress it takes to Maintain our rights.

What challenges have you faced as gay?

The challenges are mostly found sccm and difficulty to Overcome When You are young and when to one Discovers His homosexuality. There is always the feeling of being white is born qui different from a sense of shame and misunderstanding. We must learn to accept it as it is to move forward. Aim with experience and age, that's gay, fat, ugly, too big, too small, red, curly or what not, we-have to accept as we are. It is a long road ... And Sometimes Sometimes difficulties along When You're gay, . everything depends on the environment in which one grows up
Personally, I long to "live" my homosexuality Because The felt guilty with respect to my relatives and my respect. I have Heard Sometimes homophobic remarks at home .. . it Encouraged me to do my coming out. Then, over time, is relativized and takes insurance. More Recently, the biggest challenge you to be gay Was a father ... It is a long journey and difficulties. Not in material terms , purpose in terms of life and the relationship with His partner. We Talked a lot with Eric on our desires, our desires, our future, our common conception of the family, etc ... Then finally, in retrospect, thesis challenges there, this is the life!

What is the history of your coming out?

Jeremiah: My coming-out Took Place in several steps .... First of all, when i started to live in Paris, I made ​​Quickly gay friends and I started to go to frequenting gay bars and neighborhoods. Socially, I Was increasingly open and it suited me perfectly. Then, naturally, I am no skirt hid Overlooked office colleagues, my childhood friends, etc ... The problem was my family! I started to tell my brother During a trivial discussion. It was not planned, goal it's out alone. This Was Followed By Many Years Where I have Traveled, Moved, Lived peers of stories. I Was perfectly well in my basquets everywhere and with everyone, except with my parents. The location Was ridiculous and Especially unbearable. At one spot It was so absurd That I Took My bravery in Both Hands, I Had nothing to lose, and I just tell my parents. Finally, everything went well. We Discussed several times together and Now It Seems silly to me to-have Waited all this time .

What Does the gay community in Brussels in your eyes?

Jeremiah: We no fréquentons along too gay goings. From time to time we leave ... but much less than before. So, we are quite wrong place to describe the community perfectly! In general, the community is peaceful and very diverse and well integrated. There is one side the Brussels Who Were Born gold settled on Brussels for years, there HAS students or young professionals, all the expatriate community, diplomats and European Officials, etc. It is a kind of melting pot. Sometimes it is mixed and Sometimes less. Brussels is a cosmopolitan city. We Believe que la community is icts image. HOWEVER, people are Generally open, friendly and accessible. The associations present here sccm active and do a great job in all areas.

What advice would you give to your younger twin?

Jeremiah Is not afraid and enjoy your youth!

How HAS Becoming a father changed your life?

Jeremiah Personally, it exchanges a lot, a lot. Fatherhood Brings so much happiness goal totally disrupts the rhythm of life. I Took Many recoil at work (for the baby, aim not that much) and I Decided to take more time off to take care of the little. Then you-have to manage the pace of life, sleep and all domestic tasks. Finally, the arrival of a baby disrupts a pair's life. Even if We had Talked a lot with Eric, live the arrival of a baby is something else! Aim finally, in discussing with --other parents ... it's exactly the same everywhere! Social side, our friends are all very happy for us, Even If it's a little harder to organizes a late night drink ... "

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"Fear Eats the Soul"