"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Boban and Adam, Belgrade, Serbia by thegaymenproject

Boban (left) and Adam (right) photos by Kevin Truong

Boban, in his own words: "(Being gay means) the ability to perceive the world from the perspective of the unprivileged and make your life as best as possible.

Although I think that the fight for human rights are some of the largest (challenges), I realized that the fight for our own happiness is an even bigger fight. I'm happy because I'm happy: I live how I want, do what I want, love whom I love and it's the greatest thing I could do for myself.

Generally I don't have (a coming out story), I never hid that to my friends. If we talk about coming out in front of my family, it was when my parents saw me on television at the Pride Parade in Zagreb. My mother called, said she always knew, concluded that I was sleeping with all my male friends, she would get cancer and behold ten years ago we haven't been in touch.

I always maintain that the gay community in Serbia and east Europe does not exist. Community implies recognition of a common history and a desire to us as a community to be better. It includes support and action, but that in this part of Europe is almost nonexistent.

(Advice to my younger self) Things what you dream can be said in words. And if there are words, it means to dream what is realistic."

Adam, in his own words: "(Being gay) is a complex question. Labels come from outside. I am everything that I am.

My greatest success is that I live my life the way I want.

I always knew I was different. I remember when I was little, adults always asked: When are you going to marry? I have always been puzzled and said: But my girls are not interesting. I think nobody realized that I was gay.

(The gay community in Serbia is) the group of terrified people are afraid to come out into the street and fight for their rights.

(Advice to my younger self) be persistent and keep right."

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"Fear Eats the Soul"