New Survey Shows How Racist the Gay Community Is
No one wants to talk about race. No one. We’ve been living in such a bubble that the idea of racism is extremely uncomfortable. We don’t want to be labeled a “racist” because they’re all bad, evil, and unfair.
But the sad truth is our society is constructed in such a way to make everyone racist.
But the sad truth is our society is constructed in such a way to make everyone racist.
There is only one race: the human race. It’s human beings that created racism. In a way, it’s a mental illness because it keeps us from seeing reality. Our culture creates ideas and builds upon stereotypes to shape logic and to point us towards ridiculous judgments on people’s characters. The gay community is quick to say that we aren’t a part of it; after all, we are also judged by society so why would we judge someone based on the color of their skin? The truth of the matter is there is extreme racism bubbling beneath the surface.
A recent issue of the UK-based FS: The Gay Health and Life Mag surveyed over 850 black, white, Asian, South Asian, Arab and mixed race gay men to share their thoughts on racism.
63% of Black and South Asian men said that racism is a bigger issue for them than homophobia.
82% of Black men surveyed said they personally feel sexualized or objectified by white men on the gay scene.
“Going to a gay pride event and hearing racist comments from gay men directed towards you makes you feel unwelcome in a community you want to be a part of,” 31-year old Shabbs, who is South Asian, said. “I’d rather be somewhere that’s homophobic than somewhere that is racist, because I can pretend I’m straight. I can’t pretend to be a different skin color or race. So racism is a bigger issue for me.”
“It’s especially common on gay apps,” says Matt, a 32-year old gay Asian male. “When I’ve had a profile photo that wasn’t too obvious whether I was white or Asian, I got people chatting with me until the moment they realized I was Asian, then suddenly they either went completely silent or I got told that I’m not their type.”
Stereotypes follow everyone around, but especially minority groups. Being black or Asian has become somewhat of a fetish, which is usually promoted because of shared misconceptions. Another survey from FS called “Dear white gay men…” only surveyed white gays. Some of the responses were not surprising at all.
- Black men have large cocks: 78% of white gay men in our survey believe this to be true.
- Asian men have smaller than average cocks: 75% believe this to be true.
- Latin men are crazy, wild and passionate: 70% of white gay men believe this to be true.
- Mixed race men are more likely to be accepted by white men: 67% believe this to be true.
- Black men are more active, strong and dominant in the bedroom: 60% of white gay men believe this to be true.
- Asian men are mostly submissive bottoms: 56% believe this to be true.
- Arab men aren’t gay if they’re top only: 35% thought this to be true.
- Latin men are mostly rent boys or in it for a passport: 10% of what gay men this is true.
“’How hung are you?’ I fucking hate that question. With a passion,” says Peter, 28. “As if there is nothing else to my being.”
“White men will often come up to me and tell me that they like black cock, I’m their fantasy fuck, and they have a strong desire to have my big black cock inside them,” says Andrew, 48. “This can be intimidating as they have no idea of the size of my cock. I feel like an object. The other line is they know all about me as their last boyfriend was Black.”
“Sometimes it is very clear that some guys just want to have sex with you for the experience of sleeping with a Black man,” explains Mickel, 30, “and a lot of the time you just become a fetish to white men. They have no intention of going out with you, they just want you for sex.”
Ideas, though seemingly harmless, shape the way in which we treat each other. According to GMFA, there are significantly higher rates of suicide, self-harm and mental illness among Black gay and bisexual man. There is still so much work to do, but it starts with us.
To truly believe anyone is superior simply because of the pigmentation in their skin is ridiculous. It’s a delusional way of thinking. While you might try to convince yourself you’re not racist for prejudging someone because of their race, I hate to be the bearer of bad news – you are. You really, really are.
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