"A Little Sane Advice..."

How Gay Guys Can Find Their Soul Mate

David Artavia
November 27, 2013

You know the feeling we get when we discover the answer to a lifelong question? It always seems to happen at the most inopportune times. Mine was in the LGBT section at my local Barnes & Nobles, a place I’ve found myself frequenting more often these days.

After reading a book about chemical attraction in gay people, the idea of soul mates finally made sense. All my life I’ve read fairy tales which seemed to say that this “one person” we’re destined to be with is from some divine power sent to be with us and is basically the only person who will make us happy for the rest of our lives. Turns out, it all has to do with energetic attraction – none of that other mumbo jumbo.

It’s rare for a person to find someone who fits perfectly into their life, not just in regards to their goals and dreams, but also within their own sense boundaries. When his personality and spirit intertwine with yours in such an effortless way, to me, that is a message your intuition receives, telling you that you’ve met the perfect mixture. Not everyone is so lucky, however.

Too many times I’ve known people claiming they’ve met their soul mate, yet they have no idea what it really means. A soul mate is more than just someone you’re attracted to sexually or someone who puts up with your sh*t. They help you grow, they help you learn, and they teach you how to love.

In the gay community, it’s easy to surpass your soul mate. For whatever reason, there is a consistent habit of intellectualizing everyone. We over think things too much and though we feel like we have to in order to protect our hearts from getting broken, a likely consequence is to ignore our intuition. You see, this is the command center of all things. It’s the retrieving end that receives all of life’s messages, including energetic ones.

Our Intuition is like an “invisible antenna.” All animals have it, and we’d be ignorant to say that we don’t. Just as we have the ability to spot a bad egg when we meet one, our senses are equally as powerful in spotting compatibility in a person.

Here’s where the dilemma lies. It’s comfortable for us to embrace an intuitive feeling of judgment towards a person, but it’s much harder for us to accept the feeling of goodness and compatibility. When it happens, we instantly send it to our intellect for analysis. Suddenly, we over-think, speculate, and assume the worst – all because we’ve met a guy we click with, and that’s rare. It hardly ever occurs, which is why we become too scared to enjoy the feeling and see where it leads.

It’s time we learn to embrace our intuition, and listen to its messages. This is how our soul mates are revealed to us. Too many couples pretend to be happy, often refusing to listen to their gut when it screams: “This isn’t the person for you!” Why waste time on incompatibility when an honest connection exists if you’d only listen?

Never confuse your gut with your heart. Our hearts are easily influenced, but our gut is never wrong. It will always be the compass towards our destiny, and we all have a different trajectory. Our minds use society as its fuel for rationalizing, which is why we often intellectualize relationships based on culture’s man-made instruction manual. Our intuition is fueled by the spirit, and is virtually unaffected by the world. Whatever it tells you is meant to better your well-being. Ignoring it can cause serious damage.

Soul mates are real. They’re not magical beings purposely planted on earth for you to find like a “Where’s Waldo” game. They’re walking around us, and trust me. There’s more than one. Somewhere close by there is a man who fits your life, senses, soul, and spirit like a puzzle. When your intuition speaks to you, you can always find comfort to know one thing. His is speaking to him as well…

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