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16 Things Single Guys Should Stop Believing

Dustin Diehl
Pride.com
2/12/16

1. Stop believing … you need someone else to make you happy
If you’re relying on someone or something to make you happy, you’re in for some major disappointment. Be happy with you, then let other things add to the joy.

2. Stop believing … it’s all you
A string of failed relationships can make you feel like something’s wrong with you — you’re “undateable” or “unlovable.” Cut that shit out. Those guys weren’t worth your time anyway.

3. Stop believing … it’s all them
On the other hand, none of us are perfect. If guy after guy offer similar reasons for calling it quits (Anger issues? Negativity?), then it might be time to look into some self-improvement.

4. Stop believing … you’re too old
It’s hard when you see your friends, younger colleagues or even younger siblings start to settle down before you. But don’t let that discourage you. Consider this — you just have that much more experience in finding the right partner.

5. Stop believing … in “The One”
Are there personality traits, physical characteristics and life goals that need to fit in order for a relationship to work? Of course. But the Disney Prince notion of “The One” is a dangerous goal to set for yourself.

6. Stop believing … you can’t do any better
There’s a reason why you shouldn’t settle — it will end in resentment and hurt. Compromises are bound to happen, but be wary when those compromises become sacrifices.

7. Stop believing … there’s someone better out there
Our current dating culture has put us in a tailspin of endless possibilities. So many, in fact, that we can’t even sit still long enough to really get to know someone before swiping on to the next date. Don’t miss out on what could be right in front of you!

8. Stop believing … there’s someone for everyone
Some people just end up single. And that’s ok. There are infinite ways to live a fulfilling, meaningful single life. Don’t waste it by bemoaning singlehood.

9. Stop believing … everyone else is happier
Being in a relationship has its own unique kind of joy … and pain. Just because people around you are in relationships doesn’t necessarily mean they’re happier than you.

10. Stop believing … you’re too good for a relationship
If being single really is your thing, that’s ok — but don’t make others feel bad about wanting a relationship. You’re not any more enlightened by belittling others’ dreams.

11. Stop believing … loneliness is shameful
Admitting you’re lonely is often seen as weakness or self-pity. But we all get lonely, even people in relationships. Don’t let your loneliness overwhelm you, but don’t ignore it, either.

12. Stop believing … a relationship will solve your problems
If things aren’t going your way, throwing a relationship into the mix isn’t the solution. Give your future relationships the best chance by tackling your problems head-on.

13. Stop believing … online dating is stupid
Online dating is here, and it’s not going anywhere. It can be overwhelming and difficult, but don’t miss out on a potential match out of pride.

14. Stop believing … you’ll never meet someone offline
Shut off the apps, put down the phone and go out into the world! You may be surprised who you’ll meet face-to-face.

15. Stop believing … the right guy will just “come along”
Dating is like anything in life — you can’t just sit around and expect good things to happen. You have to work at it. Put yourself out there. Experience ups and downs.

16. Stop believing … you have to change who you are
Remain true to yourself. If you want to make improvements in your life, do them for you, no one else. As Ru says, “If you can’t love yourself, how in the hell you gonna love somebody else?!” Amen!