"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."

Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."

Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...

"Why Do Couples Start To Look Alike"

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Pablo, Student, Seoul, South Korea
by thegaymenproject

photos by Kevin Truong

Pablo, in his own words: "You know for Asian people to be a gay means everything will be difficult for you. Work, life, the societal relationships. But I'm proud of being gay, for me I have more freedom. I can face my real mind and to look for a true love. I think a couple doesn't mean a boy and girl! Two boys sometimes is better Hahahha .

(With regards to successes) Three years ago I decided to leave my country then went to Spain alone. But I didn't know anything about Spain and the language. But I arrived there alone. I found all things and after 3 months I can write a text in Spanish and get points from people's sentence. Hahahha.

(With regards to coming out) It isn't a story. I just met my first boyfriend and I fell in love. Really really deeply, hahaha.

In seoul it isn't really good for gay people to live. You have to keep it as secret. Because it will bring some troubles to you, but I never mind it. I just want to be myself.

Advice?? Ummmm just be yourself. Don't think it's weird. You should be proud of your sexuality. Enjoy your life! ( this is from an American friend. I got many advice from him )"

"Selfie Love..."

 "Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"The Artist's Corner..."

Danny Keith

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love... Live Fearlessly"

PDA: Public display of affection

"Selfie Love..."

 "Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."

Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."

Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...

"Why Do Couples Start To Look Alike"

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Truth About Who We Are..."

Phillip, Student Services Administrator, Sydney, Australia
by thegaymenproject

photos by Kevin Truong

Phillip, in his own words: "Being gay to me is about being happy and proud about who I am and living life accordingly. It also means not being straight which I love. I think that for some gay people it is important for them to get married, have children etc but I am not one of those men. I have no desire to get married or have children and relish that difference from straight people. I think this whole idea of conforming to a "straight life" is really unappealing. Having a gay identity means being slightly different which I think should be celebrated.

I have had a number of goals in life, to find a job I enjoy, to travel and live overseas, to buy my own apartment which I have achieved. I guess the one success I feel was the most important was moving to London when I was in my mid 20's. It enabled me the freedom to become more comfortable with my sexuality but more importantly it gave me the confidence to become the happy gay man that I am today. The experience of living in London really shaped me and I think sometimes people need to leave from where they live to grow, develop and work out who they want to be. The biggest challenge I have had to face in my life was when my father passed away when I was 16. I didn't know it at the time but it was a defining moment in my life. It took me a number of years to deal with the grief and really recover from this event. I guess the challenge I am currently facing is trying to meet someone whom I can share my life with. This is an ongoing challenge but I am hopeful that I will meet the right guy soon - not that I want to get married or anything!

For me coming out was a very gradual process, I came out to myself when I was in my early teens and then went back in the closet only to come out again in my mid 20’s to my friends. I think the reason it took me a while to become comfortable with my sexuality may have had to do with my traditional Italian background. In reality I was fooling myself in thinking I could be straight. I always remember in high school being picked on for being gay. I think the fact that I was made to feel "different" from an early age has had a huge impact on the way I feel my gay identity. Telling the family took a a little bit longer as I was living in London - it meant I had to do it on one of my trips home to Australia. I was in my early 30's and they were all very supportive. I still have not come out to my mum and that is something I contemplate on a regular basis. She is from a different generation and I struggle with what might happen if I do tell her.

The gay community in Sydney is pretty much like any gay community in a big city. There are the various “gay tribes” like the bears, the Muscle Mary’s, the twinks etc and I feel very comfortable in not belonging to any of these. I think having a clear idea about my own indentity is much more important than belonging to some clichéd gay tribe. I do love going out to gay bars and clubs as I think it is so-o important to the gay community that we do have places to go out. So many places have closed down or changed to "mixed" venues in Sydney recently and I think it’s a shame really.

The advice I would give my younger self is to be honest with yourself if you really want a happy life."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2478"

"Love Is Sweet And Gentle"

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Whisper Of Truth..."

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"The Artist's Corner..."

Douglas Simonson