Monday, April 20, 2015

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Married life really is like this.

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Thai-German Gay Couple Bullied Online For Holding Hands On Train

'Foreigners are fond of pets'

Darren Wee
April 20, 2015

Photos of a Thai man holding hands with his foreign boyfriend have gone viral.

Naparuj Kaendi and Thorsten Mid were snapped on the Bangkok Sky Train during the Songkran festival, which brings thousands of gay men from around region to the city.

The photos were met with a torrent of abuse after they were uploaded on the Facebook page of Philippine news BV Patrol on Saturday (18 April) morning.

At the time of writing, the post had nearly 17,000 likes and more than 12,000 shares.

'Foreigners are fond of pets,' wrote one commenter.

'I now believe that potions work,' another said, commenting on the perceived disparity their looks. Yet another told Mid to 'wake up, boy.'

Some even predicted that Kaendi would meet the same fate as Jennifer Laude, a Filipina transgender woman who was allegedly killed by a US marine.

But others have to come to the couple's defense.

'Everyone deserves to love and to be loved! Lets just all be happy to the both of them,' wrote one commenter. 'Love in different view, equality lives on.'

'They deserve to be respected,' said another.

Kaendi is the creative director of a Thai modeling agency and his boyfriend of two years is a model.

Kaendi took to Instagram to say thank for 'the support and all the positivity.'

'To be honest I wasn’t so surprised when random people walked to us last night and showed us all these candid pictures of us that have been posted the whole evening,' he wrote.

'It happened before, same time last year and all the nasty comments left me nothing but worries and tears.

'This year though, in the other hand, Thorsten and I, unexpectedly, are so thankful and overwhelmed by the storm of your huge support.

'We never meant to try to be under the spotlight and all… But thank y’all anyway.'


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photo by Kevin TruongAbhijit, Technician, Akleshwar, India

by thegaymenproject
photos by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photos by Kevin Truong
Abhijit, in his own words: "To me being gay means just another trait about me. But being gay in today's society has forced me to question myself and the social conventions and a sense of morality that people take for granted. I am grateful to be gay because, the process of coming to terms with my sexuality and then consecutively coming out to a repressed society has given me an unique unbiased perspective of society and human nature and forced me to have an open mind for everything else as well. I don't know whether if I had not had the challenges in my life, would I have been the same person I am now.
To me the greatest challenges were not just coming to terms with my sexuality, but to coming to terms with having my own identity. I have always been the one in the shadows, the underdog. I never liked being in the spotlight. But anonymity was a privilege I could no longer afford when I decided to be honest about my sexuality. To be identified and talked about was something I was not used to. Neither was I used to taking decisions on my own. Choosing to come out in my college was the first decision I took on my own against the disapproval of everyone important in my life. And sticking to that decision took every ounce of my will power and the support of a few good friends. I have not regretted that decision even once and am grateful for the support that I got from people, even when they disapproved of my choice to come out. Other than my sexuality, coming to terms with losing two family members impacted a lot on my life and my outlook. The fact that lives are so fragile has made me more grateful for the things I have and encouraged me to make the most of my life with what I have and not compromise on the values I believe in.
I had spent most of my life in denial of my sexuality. I had concocted some of the most creative reasons to explain my 'abnormality' and had believed I would eventually grow out of it. But things changed when in college I fell in love with a straight guy. I tried my best to keep my feelings to myself and fooled myself into believing that I just loved his friendship. But I couldn't hold the charade for long. Eventually I broke down and came out of denial. Once I had accepted who I was I knew staying in the closet was no longer an option. My father had brought me up to believe in myself and be an honest person. That day itself I first came out to my best friend. He was shocked at first but then he effortlessly accepted the fact and just started teasing me. I credit him for giving me the courage to come out to the rest of the people. 
When I decided to come out to my roommate, I was a nervous wreck. I was scared that he would freak out and tell on me or even throw me out of the room, that other boys in my hostel would come to know about it and maybe I would be beaten up or maybe the college authorities would come to know and I could get thrown out of college and then would probably get thrown out of home as well. Despite my fears I came out to him....the result was quite amusing.
He was laughing in shock, and I was laughing in nervousness. At the very moment one other friend came in and my roommate asked me to tell him the same thing which I did, and that guy ran away. He just ran away!! My roommate went up to him and confronted him, he explained that this was not an abnormality and that they needed to trust me and believe what I told them because I was not an idiot and we had been friends for so long. I was ashamed for thinking that he could ever have hurt me when he had been the most supportive guy. 
I came out on Facebook a few months after that. Partly I did it because I was tired of having to pointedly avoid conversations about girls and relationships. I didn't want to lie to people and avoiding seemed like running away. I also wanted people to stop assuming stupid misconceptions about homosexuality and they could see a gay person amongst themselves and realize I was just as normal as anyone. And one other reason was that I knew I had to come out to my family one day and there was a chance that I would be emotionally blackmailed to go back into the closet. This was a way to make sure that would no longer be an option. After coming out I was pleasantly surprised when almost all the boys of my batch living in the hostel came to me one by one and told me they supported me no matter what my sexuality was and that they would back me up if ever I had to face aggressive people. I had few homophobic experiences but they were outnumbered by the instances of acceptance and faith I had.
Coming out to my dad was also nerve wrecking, but that's a long story. In short he thinks its a perversion and believes I will change one day, but he didn't change his behavior towards me even slightly. I still remain the apple of his eye and that's more than I can ask for. Coming out is a lengthy process and continues throughout life, I still have to keep coming out to people as I go on with my life. But gradually it becomes easier.
I don't think I have enough authority to comment on the entire LGBT scene in India. But basically there are two kinds of people, one who attend Pride marches and fight for LGBT rights and another that can only be seen on Grindr and other such apps. A majority of the community still believe in having a straight marriage to save their family's image in society and they treat their own sexuality like a bad habit similar to drinking and smoking. But there are also many who are fighting the odds and trying to make the world a safer place for the community. The third gender or hijras as they are called constitute a completely separate community of their own in India and is as old as the ancient times. They have been key members in fighting for the social good, but they also have some issues regarding freedom in their own community which has developed a culture of their own separate from the rest of the society.
If I had to say anything to someone facing the same issues I did once I would say, 'Don't stop questioning. If you don't find the answers keep looking for them. But never accept anything just at face value. No matter how many hardships you face don't stop thinking rationally. And don't deny yourself from having fun when you have the chance.'"


"Fear Eats the Soul"

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Alkyd oil on masonite board
 Michael Leonard

Sunday, April 19, 2015

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love Is Beautiful... Live Fearlessly"

"Selfie Love..."

"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"This Made Me Smile..."


A Gay-Friendly Guide to Joining and Fastening

By J. Bryan Lowder
April 17, 2015

First it was pizza; now it’s cars. In the wake of the fracas over Indiana’s “religious liberty” law and similar proposals in states around the country, the latest proud American business owner to declare he no longer desires the money of LGBTQ and most other decent-minded people is Brian Klawiter, the entrepreneur behind Dieseltec, a diesel auto shop in Grandville, Michigan. In a cri de coeur posted to the company Facebook page on Tuesday, Klawiter wrote that the rights of conservative Americans are being “squashed” and that, in response, he would welcome gun enthusiasts to his establishment and “would not hesitate to refuse service to an openly gay person or persons. Homosexuality is wrong, period. If you want to argue this fact with me then I will put your vehicle together with all bolts and no nuts and you can see how that works.”

Klawiter’s statement has, predictably, garnered Dieseltec a tsunami of negative attention, from one-star Yelp reviews to reporting on the fact that he does not hold a city business license to, most amusingly, a wonderfully shady offer of assistance from a Grand Rapids bankruptcy lawyer. (It’s worth noting that Klawiter has reported threats of violence against his property and family, actions which LGBTQ advocacy groups like the HRC are actively discouraging, and rightly so.) A number of critics picked up on his earthy bolts-and-nuts metaphor, interpreting it to suggest that Klawiter would purposefully misassemble a gay customer’s car in order to make his point. He quickly clarified this (admittedly ungenerous) reading in a sic-filled update on Thursday:

I never threatened to intentionally put someones vehicle together wrong, use you sense, (although it may not have been the best way to elaborate) You need a bolt and a nut to hold something together, two bolts can not, and two nuts can not, you must have one of each, a male and a female. Get it now?

Brian Klawiter.

While we here at Outward will probably not be seeking Dieseltec’s services anytime soon, we appreciate Klawiter’s invitation to use our sense. That feels like an opening for dialogue, and so, in the interest of productive engagement, we’d like to suggest to the gentleman and others like him that there are in fact more ways of holding two things together than the nuts and bolts obsessively dreamt of in their philosophy. Indeed, given that even the lesbian among us admits to being unschooled in the building arts, we turned to Google to check Klawiter’s claim—and we were delighted to find a range of joining options beyond that venerable but limited model.

To begin, there’s the old-fashioned and appealingly straightforward practices of nailing and screwing, neither of which require nuts per se, instead simply relying on an accommodating receiver of some sort and a willingness to pound, twist, or otherwise thrust the fastener into place. There’s also a method that should be familiar to all the Scouts out there—lashing—in which two (or more!) poles are bound to each other within the firm grip of a constraining agent. Finally, the fine craft of wood joinery also offers a number of appealing techniques, such as the dovetail (in which notches in two boards are pushed tightly together), the butt joint(which a source praises as being able to “hold up fairly heavy loads”), and the tongue-and-groove joint, about which we learned that “often both tongue and groove are curved slightly so that the tongue needs to enter the groove at an angle

”As you can see, this is fascinating stuff; it’s a shame that a craftsman like Klawiter forgot—likely in the heat of his anti-gay, anti-government ranting—to mention them. But that’s what constructive dialog is all about! Hopefully this brief dive into the rich world of coupling will remind everyone that human beings have come up with a lot of ingenious ways to join things, and even if we don’t favor them all, it’s bad manners—and clearly bad business—to speak ill of those who prefer different ones.

"A Thought To Ponder..."

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Love is happiness...

"We Were Always There..."

"A bravely photographed kiss told the truth of our love..."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1992"

"Love Can Make A Home Anywhere..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Artist's Corner..."

"Joseph, le nègre"
Oil on canvas
Adolphe Brune

Saturday, April 18, 2015

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love Is Brave... Live Fearlessly"

"The Truth About Love..."

"When people fall in love they not only change themselves, but in their eyes the whole world changes. They may have been commonplace or dull before. But once in love they take on a strange brightness. And however uninteresting and dreary the world may have seemed to them, it at once becomes a fairyland."

- John Daniel Barry

"A Thought To Ponder..."

"Once Upon A Time In America..."

Rock Hudson's Secret Gay Life Revealed By 'True Love'

'He said his mother and I were the only people he ever loved'

Darren Wee
April 16, 2015

The man Rock Hudson described as his 'true love' has opened up about their secret relationship nearly 30 years after the actor died of AIDS at the age 59.

Lee Garlington, 77, said he 'adored' the screen icon, whom he dated from from 1962 to 1965.

The retired stock broker was just a young film extra when they first met.

'He was the biggest movie star in the world and the rumors were that he was gay,' he told People magazine.

'So I thought, "Let me get an eye on him." I stood outside his cottage on the Universal lot, pretending to read Variety, which was probably upside down at the time. He walked down the street. He looked back once. That was it.'

A year later, he received a call from one of Hudson's friends, asking if he'd like to meet the actor.

'I was scared to death,' he said of their first meeting at Hudson's Beverly Hills mansion.

'Of course, he was 6-foot-4, a monster. He offered me a beer, but nothing happened. Literally. I was too scared. He said, "Well, let's get together," and we did.'

Garlington said he would sneak out of Hudson's home at 6am without turning on the engine so the neighbors wouldn't hear and they went to movie premieres together – but each with a female date.

'Nobody in their right mind came out,' he said 'It was career suicide.'

Rock Hudson and Lee Garlington.
Garlington has fond memories of hanging out at the house and taking car trips to county fairs and through the South with Hudson.

'Rock was always himself,' he adds. 'He would plant a kiss on a leading lady and I would say, "Geez, he does that to me the same way." That was always a giggle on my part.'

The two broke up in 1965, partly because Garlington wanted a father figure and 'he was not strong enough.'

'Rock wasn't a real strong personality,' he said 'He was a gentle giant.'

They gradually lost contact by the time the screen icon revealed he had AIDS in 1985.

Garlington said he was 'shocked' by the news.

'AIDS killed everybody in those days,' he said.

'I called up the people taking care of him, but they said he was so sick that he wouldn't know who I was and it was best to remember him how he had been before.'

In a biography published after his death, Hudson called Garlington his 'true love.'

'I broke down and cried,' he recalled. 'I just lost it. He said his mother and I were the only people he ever loved. I had no idea I meant that much to him.'


Once upon a time in America, we lived in fear

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1991"

"Our Family Got Married..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Ignorant Truth..."

Christian Mechanic Says He Won’t Service Cars That Belong To Gays, GoFundMe Campaign Imminent

Jesus H. Christ. We’ve officially crossed into the absurd.

All across the nation, bigoted small business owners are using their religions to make martyrs of themselves and collect hundreds of thousands of dollars.

A florist in Washington state recently raked in more than $160,000 after she refused to sell a bouquet of flowers to a gay couple. A pizzeria in Indiana collected more than $840,000 after vowing never to cater a gay wedding. Now, a mechanic in Grandville, Michigan wants in on some of that sweet, sweet action.

Brian Klawiter, the owner of Dieseltec on Ottawa Avenue in Grandville, announced this week that he is morally opposed to servicing vehicles belonging to gay people.

In an unprovoked Facebook post, Klawiter said that “enough is enough,” he’s pissed, and he’s done being told by the government that he has perform oil changes or tune ups on openly gay cars!

“I would not hesitate to refuse service to an openly gay person or persons,” Klawiter wrote. “Homosexuality is wrong, period. If you want to argue this fact with me then I will put your vehicle together with all bolts and no nuts and you can see how that works.”

Klawiter also encouraged customers to bring their guns to his business, saying he’ll even offer them a discount for doing so because, well, why the hell not? Guns are American! (The discount does not extend to on-duty police officers, however.) He also insisted that he’s not a “racists”, so don’t you dare call him one!

Here’s what Klawiter wrote, in full:
Enough is enough.
“Our rights as conservative Americans are being squashed more and more everyday. Apparently if you are white (or close to it), you have a job, go to church, and own a gun… That translates into racists, privileged, bigot, conspiracy theorist. Too many of us say nothing. Well, freedom of speech isn’t just for Liberals, THEY are the ones that need to learn to “co-exist”, THEY are the ones who need to WORK to be “equal”
“Therefore, in the spirit of freedom (whats left of it) and MY right to operate MY business as I see fit:
“Guns ARE allowed at DIESELTEC, so much so in fact that we will offer a discount if you bring in your gun. (“On duty” cops are excluded because thats not their gun, thats my gun bought with my money, off duty absolutely!)
“I am a Christian. My company will be run in a way that reflects that. Dishonesty, thievery, immoral behavior, etc. will not be welcomed at MY place of business. (I would not hesitate to refuse service to an openly gay person or persons. Homosexuality is wrong, period. If you want to argue this fact with me then I will put your vehicle together with all bolts and no nuts and you can see how that works.)
“We, as a team, work hard for whats ours. We are not protected by unions or contracts. We absolutely MUST provide our customers with a service level that would make them come back or tell their friends about us. We don’t have a “right”, and we are not “entitled” to our pay. We must EARN it.
“I am not racists, you are for assuming I am, however, I am really quick to judge… if it acts like a duck, and quacks like a duck…
“It IS a free country and I support your right to your opinion, that being said, if you don’t like what I have to say I reserve that same right to tell you to go cry to your momma (cause your daddy would probably smack ya’, better yet, yes, go tell your dad.)”
“I want to have a voice about this!” Klawiter told his local news station on Wednesday. “I want to be heard about this!”

We’re sure he does.

Cue the GoFundMe campaign in 3, 2, 1…


Yep, welcome to Michigan!

"Selfie Love..."

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"The Artist's Corner..."

Acrylic on canvas
Thomas Acevedo


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