Friday, October 24, 2014

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"All Of Life Is A Journey To Love... Live Fearlessly "

"The GIFt of Love..."

The Passion In A Kiss Is Unmistakable...

"The Hard Truth When You're Gay And Black..."

20 Reasons It Sucks To Be A Gay Black Man

October 22, 2014

If you’re a black black man reading this, you know exactly where I’m coming from.   While we love our friends, sometimes they can say crazy sh!t that just makes your blood boil yet we don’t have the ability to voice our emotions.  Hopefully when my friends and other people read this list they will rethink some of the comments they make and realize how much it can suck to be a black gay man:
  1. Every day I’m consumed with the fear of rejection in a community where muscular white men are looked at in the highest regard.
  2. At least 80% of the guys I meet are “not into black guys”. Seriously? You don’t even know me jackass.
  3. The assumption that the only guys in to me are “thugs”. People really need to stop basing their views on black guys off of black gay porn clips they secretly watch on tube sites.
  5. It means I’m a double minority and that sucks.
  6. I get discriminated against by straight guys AND gay guys (and pretty much everyone else in between).
  7. People generalize gay black men into 2 categories – sexually aggressive and domineering tops or extremely flamboyant bottoms (neither of which describe me).
  8. Constantly being heart broken because that hot guy I met at Mickey’s doesn’t date black guys…
  9. When I’m introduced to new people, many times they act like they are being introduced to an alien – I’m black not from Mars!
  10. The references to fried chicken, Kool-aid and other stereotypical racist remarks I have to laugh off and pretend like they don’t bother me, when it really does.
  11. I get asked if I’m on the “down low”, or if I have a lot of friends on the “down low”. Inappropriate. And once again, stop basing your views on black guys off of black gay porn clips you secretly watch on tube sites!
  12. Straight people say that being gay “isn’t a black thing”. And to those people who say that, I say “THAT’S IGNORANT”.
  13. People assume I have a 70’s bush in my underwear (seriously!!??!!)
  14. The stigma that black men are dangerously promiscuous, don’t have safe sex and have a higher risk of contracting HIV. Bitch please, I’m safer than 70% of the guys in my circle of friends. #donttryme
  15. My friends think its so hilarious I listen to Taylor Swift, Miley Cyrus and Sia…which is ridiculous because its the same music they listen to. The only difference is I’m black…and again to them I say “THAT’S IGNORANT”.
  16. I have to listen to friends tell other people that I’m not a typical black guy, and my black friends saying I’m not a typical black guy.
  17. While LGBT acceptance is making great progress, gay black men still have to hide our sexual orientation from our parents and family.
  18. The amount of times people feel they need to reference Oprah or Tyler Perry whenever I’m around. SMH
  19. Since the majority of my circle of friends are white I’m expected to NOT date black men.
  20. Expectations of how big my penis should be [sigh]. Not all black men have an anaconda in between there legs (more power to you if you fit that stereotype).


I don't agree with everything here, but there is a lot of truth in many of his observations...

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"Selfie Love..."

"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"The Truth Is Black And White..."

Two SWAT Raids. Two Officers Dead. One Defendant Is Black, One White. Guess What Happened.

The two cases in Texas, just 100 miles from each other, raise troubling questions about race and "no-knock" police raids.

Shane Bauer
October 21, 2014

One Friday last May, the sun had not yet risen when a SWAT team ignited a flash-bang grenade outside Marvin Guy's apartment in Killeen, Texas. Officers were trying to climb in through a window when Guy, who had a criminal record and was suspected of possessing cocaine, opened fire. Four officers were hit; one of them was killed.

Five months earlier, 100 miles away, a SWAT officer was shot during a predawn no-knock raid on another house. In that case, too, police threw a flash-bang grenade and tried to enter the residence. Henry "Hank" Magee, according to his attorney, grabbed his gun to protect himself and his pregnant girlfriend. "As soon as the door was kicked in, he shot at the people coming through the door," says his attorney, Dick DeGuerin. With his legally owned semi-automatic .308 rifle, Magee killed one of the officers.

The cases are remarkably similar, except for one thing: Guy is black, Magee white. And while Magee was found to have acted in self-defense, prosecutors are seeking the death penalty for Guy. He remains in jail while he awaits trial.

Historically, police serving warrants were required to knock on a door, announce their presence, and wait for an answer. But in SWAT raids, this is often no longer the case. Police aren't required to announce themselves if they believe the circumstances present a threat of physical violence, or if they believe evidence would be destroyed. According to a study by the American Civil Liberties Union, no-knock warrants are used in around 60 percent of drug searches.

Like Guy, Magee was initially charged with capital murder, which is punishable by death. But before Magee's trial, a grand jury found there was not enough evidence for him to stand trial on that charge. "In essence it was a ruling in self-defense," DeGuerin said. Guy has been through the grand jury process as well, his attorney said, but in his case, the grand jury allowed prosecutors to move ahead with capital murder charges. So while Magee awaits trial for felony possession of marijuana, Guy awaits potential execution.

Both defendants had previous encounters with the law: Magee had been arrested twice for driving while intoxicated and twice for possessing marijuana. Guy had previous charges of bank robbery, theft, burglary, and "felony in possession of a firearm," and had done time in prison. Guy's arrests warrant shows that police suspected him of possessing cocaine after receiving a tip from an informant who said he was selling. The search of his apartment turned up an "orange glass pipe," but no drugs. Magee, however, did have drugs—"more than 4 oz but less than 5 lbs" of marijuana, according to the district attorney.

When SWAT teams were created, they were not intended for drug raids. They were set up in the late 1960s for extreme scenarios like active shooters and hostage situations. Yet 85 percent of SWAT deployments today are for "choice-driven raids on people's private residences," Peter Kraska, an Eastern Kentucky University researcher who studies tactical policing, testified in a recent Senate hearing. The ACLU study found that 62 percent of SWAT deployments today are for doing drug raids. The study also found that in around half of SWAT deployments for drug offenses, no contraband is found at all.

The study also showed that 71 percent of today's SWAT raids affect people of color, even though white people are more likely to be involved in the types of scenarios SWAT teams were created for, like active shooter and hostage situations.

Magee was found to have acted in self-defense by shooting at unannounced intruders before dawn. Whether the same standard will apply to Guy remains to be seen. His trial is scheduled for next June.

Shane Bauer is a reporter in Mother Jones' San Francisco bureau, covering criminal justice, social justice, and human rights. His work has also appeared in the Guardian, The Nation, Salon, Slate, the Los Angeles Times, the Christian Science Monitor, and many other publications. He is the co-author of A Sliver of Light, a memoir he wrote with his fellow hostages (one of whom is now his wife) about their two years as prisoners in Iran.


Surprised?  Then you must be white.

This is the truth in America, one truth for whites, another for people of color.

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1825"

"Love Is Beautiful..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"We Were Always There..."

"We took this photo to commemorate our second anniversary together..."

"The Truth Is We Really Are Sometimes Fabulous..."

An Amazing Gay Wedding Proposal

Danny Rose set a new precedent for gay grooms-to-be with his amazing proposal video. Titled "What Are We Waiting For," the video features a dance-pop soundtrack and "Glee"-style choreography, along with a number of slick costume changes to boot.

"I started writing the song in December and took me a month to complete," said Rose. "Then I prepped the music video for a few weeks and shot it all in one day...After the video I got down on one knee and asked him to make me the happiest person in the world and spend his life with me! He said of course and it was a great moment. But wanted to watch the video again 30 more times. There are a lot of inside jokes and even some wardrobe choices in there designed to experiences in our history."

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Hateful Truth..."

Family Circle Magazine Receives Backlash After Featuring Its First Gay Family

Cavan Sieczkowski

Women's magazine Family Circle just made history by featuring a gay family in its publication for the first time ever, but they were met with backlash from some hateful readers.

Same-sex couple Chris and Bob Osner-Hackett appear alongside their two daughters in the most recent issue of Family Circle in a new question-and-answer column titled "Modern Life."

"The Modern Life column is one of several new features introduced with the redesigned September 2014 issue," Linda Fears, vice president and editor-in-chief of the magazine, told The Huffington Post. She said Family Circle, which began in 1932, makes a point to cover a wide range of topics including the changing American family. "Our aim is to be reflective of all families and we don't think it's a big deal to publish a piece on gay parents."

In the column -- which asks questions like "What surprises you most about parenthood?" and "Which three words best capture your family?" -- the Osner-Hacketts describe how they have always felt accepted by the communities where they've lived. Some readers, however, were not as accepting. Family Circle staff told HuffPost they received negative feedback denouncing the inclusion of a gay family.

Some even took to Family Circle's Facebook to complain.

Fears defended the inclusion of a family with two fathers.

"We are certainly not the first magazine or media brand to share the story of gay parents," Fears said. "But we will also publish stories on single parents, multi-racial couples, and unmarried couples with kids. People may not like those either, but they are all representative of American family life today."

"We hope that everything we publish in Family Circle is inspiring, informative, thought provoking or motivating in one way or another," she added. "Our goal is to be relevant, honest and realistic."


"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Artist's Corner..."

"Cafe Florian"
Oil on canvas
Noel Bensted

Thursday, October 23, 2014

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love Is The Freedom To Live... Live Fearlessly "

"A Thought To Ponder..."

No human relation gives one possession in another—every two souls are absolutely different. In friendship or in love, the two side by side raise hands together to find what one cannot reach alone.

- Kahlil Gibran

"The Truth About Broken Hearts..."

"The Views To Love..."

Love Is The Joy In Life

"The Truth About Love..."

Love enters the heart unawares: takes precedence of all the emotions--or, at least, will be second to none--and even reflection becomes its accomplice. While it lives, it renders blind; and when it has struck its roots deep only itself can shake them. It reminds one of hospitality as practiced among the ancients. The stranger was received upon the threshold of the half-open door, and introduced into the sanctuary reserved for the Penates. Not until every attention had been lavished upon him did the host ask his name; and the question was sometimes deferred till the very moment of departure.

- Madame Swetchine

"Selfie Love..."

"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"We Were Always There..."

"Our love was a precious forbidden fruit..."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1824"

"Love Is The Reason For The World..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Imitation Of Life..."

“None of the lies I have told have made me stronger. None of the secrets I have kept have made me happier. So I want to try something else now, I want to try telling the truth.”

- Kal, The L.A. Complex


"Fear Eats the Soul'

"The Artist's Corner

“Canada will never be intimidated...”

Prime Minister Stephen Harper

October 22, 2014

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love's Place Is Everywhere... Live Fearlessly "

"The Things That Love Says..."

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Ugly Truth About Jamaica..."

Gay and trans youth living in a Kingston sewer in Dec. 2013

This Short Film Shows How Terrifying It Is To Be LGBT In Jamaica
Of The 56 Cases Of Assault On LGBT Jamaicans Documented In A New Report From Human Rights Watch, Police Made Only Four Arrests.

J. Lester Feder
October 21, 2014

Widespread violence in Jamaica has driven some LGBT youth to live in the sewers of the capital, Kingston, after they fled violence in their home communities. A Human Rights Watch report released Tuesday shows that police do little to protect LGBT people when they do report violence. Police are known to have made arrests in only four of the 56 cases Human Rights Watch documented, and more than half of those interviewed who had been attacked said they were too afraid of retaliation or of being outed to even report assaults.

The Jamaican government is now in the midst of reviewing the Sexual Offenses Act in a process that the country’s justice minister, Mark Golding, told BuzzFeed News last year might be a vehicle for repealing the country’s sodomy law. But although Prime Minister Portia Simpson-Miller has endorsed repeal of the law criminalizing homosexuality, she has also said doing so must be “based on the will of the
constituents” and is “not a priority.” A challenge to the law pending before Jamaica’s highest court was withdrawn in August by the plaintiff, Javed Jaghai, because of threats against his family.

A new video from Human Rights Watch documents the widespread threat of violence towards LGBT people, where there are an average of almost 60 anti-LGBT assaults each year.


No one should support travel and tourism to this hate filled nation...

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"And The Truth Shall Set You Free..."


Steven James Boyle
October 21, 2014

After receiving a little attention online from my poetry and more specifically from “i hit send or modern meltdown” I really wanted to take another step towards making an impact for myself and for those who might find my videos. When I was in high school, I was terrified of the idea of coming out, despite the fact that my school was one of the most tolerant and understanding places I had ever had the pleasure of attending. I decided I wanted to go back and show myself, and more importantly the kids, that being brave means doing what you can with what you have.

When I contacted my old school asking about their annual “Open Doors” assemblies where the LGBTQA student body is showcased, I was met with a very warm and excited response.

There is really no way of explaining what it feels like to go back and write the end of a chapter you weren’t pleased with the first time around. I was lucky enough to be given that chance.

“Message Sent, or I am Nervous” is a poem I wrote for this assembly about the celebration of putting up with the hard stuff and finally, finally getting the pay off. I wrote this poem for the guy or girl in the audience who felt just like me in the seats year after year watching the LGBTQA assembly and feeling like they would never be brave enough.

I hope it speaks to anyone who has ever felt as helpless as I did during that time, and to those who waited it out to see the best parts of life.

There are few things I am more proud of than this performance. Enjoy.


"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Views To Love..."

Love And Happiness

"We Were Always There..."

"Because of our age difference, people assumed we were father and son, 
but the truth is it was love that they saw..."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1823"

"The Reason For Life And Love Is To Be Together In The World..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.


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