"Enjoy Life And Love... Live Fearlessly"
Tuesday, February 21, 2017
"The Comfort Of Love's Embrace..."
Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.
I spent years trying to find a guy I was compatible with. I wasted so much time on people I knew I didn't have a future with. I just wanted to find someone who would appreciate me for exactly who I am. I'm a lover. I show my emotions almost immediately. I wear my heart on my sleeve and don't apologize for it.
For years I struggled with feeling isolated from the gay community. People don't realize there's a lot of alienation within the gay community itself. The media often portrays homosexual men with a certain image- tall, skinny, muscular, perfect hair, and chiseled features. I don't fit that mold and it made me feel unworthy.
Just when I was starting to give up on men, I received a Facebook request from Matthew. Apparently Matthew had come across my page on the "people you may know" section. He was so handsome and although I figured he was out of my league, I took a chance. I messaged him a simple, "Hi" and it was the best decision I've ever made. We hit it off from the jump and scheduled dinner plans for later that week.
On the night of our first date, I was so nervous that I almost called off our plans. But something in my gut told me to go, to show up, and to push myself to be vulnerable one more time. When I arrived at the restaurant, Matthew was standing outside with a single rose in his hand. We hugged and I immediately felt the fireworks.
The conversation that night flowed so easily and there was never a dull moment. As cliché as it sounds, I felt like we had known each other our whole life.
My message to anyone reading this is to just wait. Don't settle. Not when it comes to love anyways. Your person is out there and you will find them when the time is right. Actively searching for love never seems to work out. When you meet the person you're meant to be with, you'll know. You won't question it. You won't hesitate. And your excitement to be around them will never go away.
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Legalizing same-sex marriage led to 134,000 fewer suicide attempts a year
Feb 20, 2017
While suicide rates are increasing in the United States at a disturbing rate, particularly for LGBT youths, there’s some legitimately good news: Marriage equality has saved as many as 134,000 teens a year from trying to kill themselves.
According to a new study, states that legalized same-sex marriage in the years before the 2015 Supreme Court ruling saw a significant drop in suicide attempts among teens of all orientations, though particularly those identifying as LGBT.
Researchers at Johns Hopkins University were able to look at suicide rates in 32 of the 35 states that passed laws on marriage equality — both for and against — in the 11 years preceding the Supreme Court’s decision to legalize same-sex marriage nationwide. The difference was stark: After a state enacted marriage equality, suicide attempts among all teens dropped by seven percent, with a fourteen percent drop for gay, lesbian, and bisexual teens in particular. The effect only lasted for about two years before the suicide rate returned to normal, but that’s still a substantial difference from states that kept same-sex marriage illegal. In those states, the suicide rate didn’t budge at all.
In explaining the findings, lead researcher Julia Raifman noted in a press statement that the average teenager isn’t likely to get married anytime soon, so it’s unlikely that LGBT teens changed their outlook because of any specific plans for the future. Rather, marriage equality opened up possibilities for the future that might previously have appeared impossible, which Raifman suggested could serve to break down feelings of social stigma and create hope going forward.
Intriguingly, the reduction in suicide attempts only occurred after the law had actually gone into effect, even if marriage equality had been a popular topic of discussion for years beforehand. In other words, just talking about marriage equality and bringing it into the public discourse wasn’t enough to substantially alter teens’ outlooks. For that, actual changes to the law needed to happen. That’s not to say awareness campaigns don’t work or can’t have concrete benefits — indeed, the researchers can’t say for absolute certain whether it was definitely the new laws or the public campaigns preceding them that were responsible for the change in the suicide rate.
Either way, the evidence does support a link between legalizing marriage equality and reducing teen suicides. And that means the reverse of that statement is possible: Taking away rights could well increase the chances that more teens find themselves in what they see as hopeless situations. As Raifman put it, reducing teen suicide — reducing suicide for people of all ages — really ought to be a priority for everyone, regardless of political views.
No study can ever say just how powerful the hope of equality, freedom and love is in changing a person's outlook on life and the future...
Speaking for myself, the hope of being free to love and even marry the person of my choosing saved my life on more than one occasion.
Having been raised to believe that love and marriage is the fulfillment of life's great purpose, and believing that these things could never be true for me led me down many dark paths and to desperate acts including suicide attempts as early as just 10 years old.
Thankfully, the times did change, and today I am an openly same-gender-loving man who is happily married, a father and a grandfather... and without marriage equality none of this could be true.
"Fear Eats the Soul"
It's only the most popular gay social networking app in the world, and it seems to be gaining lots of recognition outside of the gay community. A gay friend may have shown you a profile with a humorous biography, a ridiculous conversation he's had with another guy, or even some unflattering and unwanted pictures of the male anatomy.
Chances are that most gay men have the app on their phone or have used it at least a few times. How can he not? Its geo-location technology allows gay men to communicate with virtually anyone close to them. You can go out for dates, or just skip the date and play tonsil hockey before you get bored and do something you may or may not regret the next morning.
Once you've created a profile, you can view the Grindr cascade, filled with other profiles of men within a certain radius of you. It's like being eight-years-old all over again and walking into a toy store. But instead of playing with building sets or action figures (maybe Barbie dolls for some of you who are gender-neutral), you're playing with other people's body parts. There's just too much to choose from! Who are some of these guys, you may ask? Here's a list of the men you'll inevitably run into if you use Grindr.
1. The Jailbait Guys
Bio: "Love partying & shopping. Hmu ;)"
His profile says eighteen, but he's definitely sixteen – maybe even fifteen.
2. The Discreet Guys
He probably also has a girlfriend, wife, or kids at home, so he can't host.
3. The Millennials
Bio: "I like cats."
If they have a link to their Instagram profile, you'll get lost in the countless number of selfies they've taken.
4. The Horses
Bio: "Hey, hey, hey, hey, hey."
No, horse, is not another gay slang term used to describe a sub-type of gay men. These are just the men who will persistently message you "hey" no matter how many times you've ignored them.
5. The Blank Profiles
6. The Fifty-Plus-Year-Olds
Bio: "I'm looking for physical affection."
Lonely? Possibly. Confident that the majority of young, gay guys want to sleep with men old enough to be their fathers? One-hundred percent.
7. The Sugar Daddies
Bio: "Generou$ here."
They love pampering broke college students!
8. The Body Shamers
Bio: "Fit guys only."
Stock up on shaker bottles and whey protein. They're probably looking for a gym partner, who they can also fool around with in the saunas.
9. The Strict Guys
Bio: "White guys only" or "No Asians, Blacks, or Latinos."
It's not racist, it's just a preference. Okay, buddy.
10. The Elusive Ones
Bio: Something fairly generic, but gives good insight into what he's looking for and what kind of person he is.
He's a breath of fresh air, and he'll probably delete the app after meeting you and falling in love with your personality!
February 20, 2017
Yusaf Mack may best be known for being a professional prizefighter out of Philadelphia, PA. He’s known to others for being the openly gay boxer who decided to come out after a scandalous tape made rounds a few years back.
However you know him, he wants to make one thing clear: he isn’t here for personal attacks on his sexual orientation.
Violence is always wrong...
The truth about hate... Sometimes it comes right back to you hard!
"Fear Eats the Soul"
The "gay egg" inTrump's basket of deplorables finally gets his comeuppance... In a delicious fall from grace, he finds out that you can't say and do anything for fame.
Monday, February 20, 2017
All love is sweet,
Given or returned. Common as light is love,
And its familiar voice wearies not ever.
Like the wide heaven, the all-sustaining air,
It makes the reptile equal to the God;
They who inspire it most are fortunate,
As I am now; but those who feel it most
Are happier still.
Percy Bysshe Shelley
Jose, Journalist, Madrid, Spain
photos by Kevin Truong
Jose, in his own words: "Being gay should not be anything special. For me being gay does not mean anything. I'm just simply me. It is not a value in itself, nor a curse or blessing. It is another feature, such as red hair or as being tall or short. However, I understand and am glad that many people who felt persecuted by their sex lives celebrate their homosexuality with pride, and I like to see people who have not felt persecuted celebrate their sexuality against the intolerance of others.
My greatest success is being happy and being able to create a bubble in which the pettiness and pessimism is out. That is my greatest success over any professional achievements. Apart from that, as a professional, I am proud to have been published in the largest newspaper in my country, having written a book, having shot a short film that defined my way of seeing the world.
I did not leave the closet because I've never been inside one. I have been lucky to have always been who I am. I remember the first time I felt excitement seeing a man was watching Kurt Russell in "Big Trouble in Little China."
The gay community in Madrid, is grassroots and very much about protest and street fighting for the rights of all, is very funny and open to people of all communities. The gays who comes to Madrid, after only a few days, feels born in Madrid. Madrid is a place where anyone who feels persecuted in his small town or village can come and be happy.
(Advice to my younger self) Be patient and work hard."