Thursday, October 23, 2014

"The Imitation Of Life..."

“None of the lies I have told have made me stronger. None of the secrets I have kept have made me happier. So I want to try something else now, I want to try telling the truth.”

- Kal, The L.A. Complex


"Fear Eats the Soul'

"The Artist's Corner

“Canada will never be intimidated...”

Prime Minister Stephen Harper

October 22, 2014

Wednesday, October 22, 2014

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love's Place Is Everywhere... Live Fearlessly "

"The Things That Love Says..."

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Ugly Truth About Jamaica..."

Gay and trans youth living in a Kingston sewer in Dec. 2013

This Short Film Shows How Terrifying It Is To Be LGBT In Jamaica
Of The 56 Cases Of Assault On LGBT Jamaicans Documented In A New Report From Human Rights Watch, Police Made Only Four Arrests.

J. Lester Feder
October 21, 2014

Widespread violence in Jamaica has driven some LGBT youth to live in the sewers of the capital, Kingston, after they fled violence in their home communities. A Human Rights Watch report released Tuesday shows that police do little to protect LGBT people when they do report violence. Police are known to have made arrests in only four of the 56 cases Human Rights Watch documented, and more than half of those interviewed who had been attacked said they were too afraid of retaliation or of being outed to even report assaults.

The Jamaican government is now in the midst of reviewing the Sexual Offenses Act in a process that the country’s justice minister, Mark Golding, told BuzzFeed News last year might be a vehicle for repealing the country’s sodomy law. But although Prime Minister Portia Simpson-Miller has endorsed repeal of the law criminalizing homosexuality, she has also said doing so must be “based on the will of the
constituents” and is “not a priority.” A challenge to the law pending before Jamaica’s highest court was withdrawn in August by the plaintiff, Javed Jaghai, because of threats against his family.

A new video from Human Rights Watch documents the widespread threat of violence towards LGBT people, where there are an average of almost 60 anti-LGBT assaults each year.


No one should support travel and tourism to this hate filled nation...

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"And The Truth Shall Set You Free..."


Steven James Boyle
October 21, 2014

After receiving a little attention online from my poetry and more specifically from “i hit send or modern meltdown” I really wanted to take another step towards making an impact for myself and for those who might find my videos. When I was in high school, I was terrified of the idea of coming out, despite the fact that my school was one of the most tolerant and understanding places I had ever had the pleasure of attending. I decided I wanted to go back and show myself, and more importantly the kids, that being brave means doing what you can with what you have.

When I contacted my old school asking about their annual “Open Doors” assemblies where the LGBTQA student body is showcased, I was met with a very warm and excited response.

There is really no way of explaining what it feels like to go back and write the end of a chapter you weren’t pleased with the first time around. I was lucky enough to be given that chance.

“Message Sent, or I am Nervous” is a poem I wrote for this assembly about the celebration of putting up with the hard stuff and finally, finally getting the pay off. I wrote this poem for the guy or girl in the audience who felt just like me in the seats year after year watching the LGBTQA assembly and feeling like they would never be brave enough.

I hope it speaks to anyone who has ever felt as helpless as I did during that time, and to those who waited it out to see the best parts of life.

There are few things I am more proud of than this performance. Enjoy.


"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Views To Love..."

Love And Happiness

"We Were Always There..."

"Because of our age difference, people assumed we were father and son, 
but the truth is it was love that they saw..."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1823"

"The Reason For Life And Love Is To Be Together In The World..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The GIFt of Love..."

"Love always has its sweet and gentle side..."

"The Truth About Distraction..."

Yesterday Michael Sam, the first openly gay player to be drafted in the NFL
was cut from the Dallas Cowboys' practice squad.


What an incredible role model!  
Grace, eloquence and humility in everything he does. 

With all eyes on Michael it's not surprising that he's struggled to rise above it all.  But I know this is not the end of this young man's dream.  There must always be a first and being first is never easy, but he's done more in just a year to promote the cause of freedom and equality than most of will ever get the chance to do in a lifetime.

Thank you, Michael Sam!

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Artist's Corner..."

Tuesday, October 21, 2014

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"With Love Make Everyday Your Happiest Day... Live Fearlessly "

"The Truth Is Hard To Hear..."

Hook-up Apps Are Destroying Gay Youth Culture

Cody Freeman
October 16, 2014  

Many dating apps help perpetuate what people scorn about LGBT: promiscuity, impersonal behavior, and compromised interpersonal connection

Notification: You have 12 new matches!

When I get home from work and realize the silence of the end of the day, I open one of the many dating or sex-based apps I have — programs that provide literally thousands of people for me to choose from as a possible match to my personality. I assume that I am like most people on these apps: ultimately seeking a lasting relationship.

Coming out as gay in my hometown of Muncie, Indiana, was not an easy thing to do, so I didn’t. Like many LGBT folk, I flocked to a liberal university in a liberal city to feel accepted, but I found gay communities closed-off to LGBT youth. We all crave connection and intimacy, but there is nowhere for freshly out young gay men to connect. Feeling alone in a big city, walking from building to building without making a connection, I desperately wanted to meet like-minded individuals, but I found myself resorting to these apps to do that.

But instead of advancing the gay agenda of inclusion, I found the apps to perpetuate what people scorn about LGBT: promiscuity, impersonal behavior, and sexually motivated conversations. This is not the fault of the LGBT community, but these depersonalized conversations are what lead to depersonalized relationships. When an introduction to gay culture is through a sex-based app, it perpetuates the sex-based stereotype.

Because LGBT still face shame and disownment, our coming out is plagued with fear that we will lose those we love, which leads to a shame-based idea of relationships. Each dating app focuses on a different demographic, with OkCupid, Tinder, and Grindr thriving as probably the three most popular in the mainstream gay community. OkCupid is for the romantics looking for dates, Tinder is where you browse pictures and compare common Facebook interests before deciding to meet; and Grindr allows one picture and a brief description for guys who are looking for temporary company.

I never thought of approaching dating through this screening process, but many people inadvertently find themselves becoming a part of the hook-up culture. Compared to traditional dating methods, these apps provide many advantages: you save time on bad blind dates and boring conversations, you can connect to someone anytime you feel lonely, and if you are rejected you simply move on to the next person. But because there are thousands of people at your fingertips, it also creates a society of oversharing, superficiality, and instant gratification. You are on the grid 24/7 and you must advertise yourself. And there’s a paradox of choice: be careful who you choose, because there might be someone better out there—always.

Gay men want those perfect relationships that we see in romantic-comedies, instead of the ultimate fear of our generation: being alone. But there is nowhere that is not sex-based to connect. LGBT are still considered outcasts of society. Homosexuality, while popularized by the media, is still considered dangerous to teach to our kids. The way to solve this is through education. The history of talking about sexual orientation to children has been one of fear, regret, and ignorance. We need informed parents who understand how to support gay youth. We need college-aged LGBT to actively work their state’s capitals for gay marriage, harassment laws, and transgender equality. Most importantly, K-12 children should be taught about sexual orientation in an open, direct, and engaging way encouraging normalcy and assimilation. If we can openly discuss it, LGBT can defeat the sex-centered stereotype.

This generation will determine the course of healthy relationships while using future connection forums such as Ello or Hinge. If people feel supported during their formative years rather than making sex a dirty and scary thing, there won’t be a need to change our values because we are LGBT. There won’t be a need to comprise ourselves for connection.

Cody Freeman has worked extensively in the Philadelphia LGBT community through ActionAIDS, I’m From Driftwood, and The William Way LGBT Center. 


Okay, you've been warned...  I know I don't fit the demographic of "the gay youth generation," but I do know what's happening out there.  While you 'might' find love, you're far more likely to find nameless, (maybe shameless) sex and nothing else. Moreover, this is not the path to real freedom, happiness and acceptance.  These hook up apps only perpetuate and reinforce the worse stereotypes about gay people and worse they are yet another source of our own self-loathing behavior.

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"Selfie Love..."

"Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"A Little Sane Advice..."

5 Things Gay Men Should Stop Doing Now

September 29, 2014

Gay men are one of the most dynamic and interesting subgenus in the human populous, issues surrounding gay sex and gay culture have been a source of distress, wild disagreements, blatant ignorance – and general outrage over the years. For such a dynamic group of men, there are still some medieval customs and non-progressive habits we hold on to that don’t stand to further a more mainstream attitude towards gay men and acceptance as a societal normalcy. Here’s a suggestion of five things gay men should stop doing.

1. Describing yourself as straight acting

The premise of sexual orientation is limited to sexual preferences, not how interested you are in sports, how masculine you dress and talk or how reserved you are. Describing yourself as straight acting doesn’t put you in a special class of gay men who are more desirable. Straight acting men – do not sleep with men, misogyny doesn’t serve to advance or improve society’s impressions of gay men.

2. Baring it all on Dating Websites, But still “Looking for Friendship”

To the gay man using a photo of his erect member or supple behind as his primary profile picture on dating websites with the premise, looking for friendship, stop. Regardless of how nice you think your penis is or how anaconda worthy your behind, advertising sex is unlikely to attract people interested in more than just sex. Be specific in your profile and clear about your intentions, state what you’re looking for in a respectful manner and for Pete’s sake, stop taking close up photos of your anus.

3. Femme Shaming

The ironic joke of gay culture is the idealization of hetero-normative behavior, not only is this self loathing practice hurtful but it only helps to perpetuate the stereotype that all gay men act feminine. This limits the spectrum of expression men are allowed to be comfortable with, any behavior which can be interpreted as feminine becomes undesirable, and gay men inclined to this form of expression become outcasts in an already ostracized group.

4. Using Sexual Labels as Life Labels

Top, bottom and verse are labels gay men use to describe their preference for penetration during intercourse. But for some gay men, the labels take on a form outside of sex and become labels used to determine how they live their life. Stop this, now. Stereotyping men in accordance to their sexual label or adopting to stereotypes is non-progressive. There is no hard and fast rule book that determines how a top should act, and how a bottom should act. Stop trying to make it happen, it’s not going to happen.

5. Slut shaming other gay men

There are enough heterosexuals in the world calling gay men whores. Freedom of sexual expression is something you’d expect a repressed feminist to rant about but the same is similar in the gay community – especially for men on the receiving end of sex. If you are concerned about someone else’s sex life, research shows that there is an 80 percent chance you might not be getting enough. There is no hard and fast rule that dictates when to have sex with someone. Instead of slut shaming encourage the person to practice safer sex, since their sex life is your prerogative.


I really like the advice that "The Attractor" posts on his blog...
I entirely agree with him on all these issues. 

Check out more of his great advice here: 

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"We Were Always There..."

"They called us 'The Dapper Duo' but love made us a happy couple"

"A Thought To Ponder..."

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Views To Love..."

All of life is a journey to love...

"And The Truth Shall Set You Free..."

Indian actor Aamir Khan said Khan said LGBTI people should not feel fear 
or shame in accepting their sexual preference.

India Talk Show Changes Views On Gays

About 1.7 million people called in to protest the country's anti-gay law

Darren Wee
October 20, 2014

Indian actor Aamir Khan's hit talk show Satyamev Jayate last night tackled the taboo subject of 'alternative sexualities,' with many viewers saying the program changed their perception of LGBTI people.

Guests included transgender woman Gazal Dhaliwal and her parents, popular psychologist Deepak Kashyap and LGBTI activists.

Khan listened sympathetically as his LGBTI guests told their coming out stories. Several stressed the importance of parental relationships in shaping their lives and fighting depression and suicidial thoughts.

Khan said LGBTI people should not feel fear or shame in accepting their sexual orientation, which they were born with.

Doctors explained that homosexuality was not a disease and could not be cured with yoga while lawyers explained the colonial origins of Section 377 of the penal code, which criminalizes gay sex.

The show has a reach of 129.6 million and had a massive impact on viewers.

The hashtag #FreedomForLGBT became the top trending topic globally on Twitter and 1.7 million missed calls were made to a hotline set up by the show to protest the anti-gay law.

Veena Chowdary wrote on the show's website, 'In a span of 1 hour you have changed the way I used to feel about LGBT. Hope your work towards "making the society better" continues.'

Divyaraj Gadhvi tweeted, 'I pledge today I will never crack jokes on homosexuals or transgenders. Become sensitive on this issue.'

India recriminalized gay sex in December last year.

Watch the show with English subtitles below:


This is the beginning of freedom, when people can see us for who and what we are... only human.

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 1822"

"Follow Your Heart To Love..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Truth About Who We Are..."

photo by Kevin TruongCarlos Bruce, Congressman, Lima, Peru

by thegaymenproject
photos by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photo by Kevin Truong
photos by Kevin Truong
Carlos Bruce, in his own words: What’s the condition like for LGBTI individuals in Peru?
Bruce: It’s difficult, but changing. It used to be more difficult in the past, but still Lima and Peru is a very conservative country and a conservative society, but things are starting to change. The effort to put the issue of LGBT rights on the national agenda has stepped forward. I’m the first openly gay politician, which is also showing that things are starting to change. Maybe it’s late, but it’s starting anyway.
How did you get to that decision to come out and has it been difficult?
Bruce: I presented this bill for civil unions for LGBT people and there were a lot of stupid arguments being said and I thought it was useful to see that one can be a minister, one can be a congressman, and your sexual orientation has nothing to do with it, so I think it was a good moment, and it was a good cause to do it and so I did it, and I’m still alive (laughs).
What was the response when you came out?
Bruce: In the internet there were all types of insults, but I have to say that in the streets, in person, I haven’t received one expression against me because I’ve said publicly my sexual orientation. Not even one. It’s very strange because we Congressman are not very popular here in Peru, you’re used to receiving some types of not so good comments, but since I made public my sexual orientation not even one expression against me and I think that’s a way of people saying ‘Ok, I respect what you have done.’”
And what is your hope for LGBT individuals in the future?
Bruce: What everybody wants as human beings, just to be treated equally, and I hope that Peru is going to be in that position soon. I think we have to put the issue on the national agenda, I don’t know if my bill is going to be approved or not with this Congress, but I’m sure in the next presidential campaign the issue is going to be on the table and all the presidential candidates will have to have a position on this issue and I’m sure that the next congress will probably be a Congress that will be more sympathetic to pass some legislation to assure rights for the LGBT couples.
If you could give advice to a young kid around the world who is gay, what would you say?
Bruce: Don’t lose hope. It’s very difficult, we all have to pass through this process when you discover you are different from your mates, and you try to fix it so that you can be the same as them and you discover that it cannot be fixed. What I’m trying to tell these young people is that there’s nothing to be fixed. We all tried to fix it but there’s nothing to be fixed because there’s nothing wrong. There’s a future for you, you can be a Minister, you can be a Congressman, and who knows, you can be a President.


"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Artist's Corner..."

Dimitris Laletas


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