Wednesday, March 29, 2017

"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."


Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."


Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...


"Fear Eats the Soul"



"A Thought To Ponder..."


Thou demandest what is love? It is that powerful attraction towards all that we conceive, or fear, or hope beyond ourselves, when we find within our own thoughts the chasm of an insufficient void, and seek to awaken in all things that are, a community with what we experience within ourselves.

- Percy Bysshe Shelley



"A True Love Story..."


Eugene and David
Our Story
How We Met

Falling in love is not a Disney fairy tale, it is not a corny rom-com, and for us, it is definitely not a cheesy country song. For us, falling in love was a series of events, well timed circumstances and a little luck. After years of bad dates and awkward moments, each of us resorted to the world of online dating where we eventually met. If you've ever asked us how we met, it's very likely that you've gotten our go to and well rehearsed response, "we met on Christian Mingle, the only 2 gay Jews there, it was easy." Quickly followed by the real and factual answer of Match.com. One of us had signed up years before, the other just that week. One of us sent their very first message on the site which lead to a first date.


Over sausages and wine we met to get to know each other better. Neither had big expectations. One thought the other would be a heavy Russian accented, poorly dressed, eastern European guy. The other was going on his first Match.com date and didn't really think much of it. One showed up 15-minutes early, the other 15-minutes late. Little did we know that that would be the day that would change our lives forever.


This was not a classic fairy-tale but instead a modern day love story.



From The Knot



"The Views To Love..."







Love Is Beautiful



"The Truth About Who We Are..."


Vincent, Graphic Designer, Portland, Oregon

by thegaymenproject

photos by Kevin Truong
















Vincent, in his own words: "Lately, I identify as queer.

I choose that term because it feels more inclusive and allows me to connect with many other folks in the community going through vastly different experiences, but also because I believe it’s versatility is powerful. Queerness gives me the reigns of my own identity — rather than being defined for me by politics or other peoples perceptions. It’s something that always rests in my own hands, and can be molded to serve a better me at any time. Like a lot of folks in my generation (maybe), I feel a freedom in my queerdom, not unlike a talisman or amulet of sorts.

This image of power and even magic contained with queer identity is something I’ve carried with me since coming out as a teenager. Early on I was very taken with the Native American (My grandfather was born in the Navajo reservation) term Two-Spirit. I liked it immediately because it seemed to suit me. It allowed for how I could dream of myself as a mother, express myself with a softness and emotional intelligence, and also be comfortable in my body. I generally refrain from using words like masculine or feminine, because I don’t think they exist, and question their role in how we define ourselves. But in those limited terms, I have always connected with both, and feel incredibly blessed to be queer so that I can dance between them without any self-doubt.

Of course, the years I’ve spent “out”, could be measured in degrees of how comfortable I am in that very thing. It can be challenging to know if one’s limits are self-defined or made by society. Am I disinclined to wear a dress because it isn’t in me? Or is it out of fear? In those instances lately, I’ve been choosing to do it anyway and evaluate afterward. Charge into the fear, as my roommate puts it.

Queer as I am now, I first came out as gay, though not quite in the traditional (if coming out can be seen as traditional?) sense.

I was lucky enough for my parents to find some incriminating evidence (**cough** porn) on my laptop when I was about twelve, and so I was thankfully spared having to come out to my entire Christian family and church for that matter. Looking back, I can safely say it didn't go well. Having to answer questions of faith and heaven and hell (neither of which I believe in) early on, was far from fun and nothing I would have chosen for myself. The upside was that going through it all relatively young, allowed me at seventeen to casually say to friends “oh yeah, this is my boyfriend so-and-so." I trusted that they could fill in the blanks for themselves. I had no interest in self-identifying myself for anyone and still don’t to this day. But I make a point of being open about my life — which includes my relationships and even sexual experiences — at all times.

This is relatively easy I’d say in Portland, so I am extremely grateful for that, knowing that in most of the world this is not the case. Though it’s true, Portland very much still lacks in diversity in terms of color, I can’t really say I’ve lacked for a moment queer connection of all sorts. I moved here just two years ago (new years day 2015) and it’s the first time in my life that I struggle to think of one friend in my personal life that isn’t queer in some way. Which is surprising to me, given that I spent the last decade in San Francisco. I’m not sure why it is but Portland to me has held a welcome sign for me that no other city’s queer community has.

If I were to speak to my younger self, I would tell myself not to give too many fucks about what anyone else thinks, to follow my own path, make mistakes without fear and above all not to get too debilitated by comparing myself with other people’s successes."



"The Artist's Corner..."




Tuesday, March 28, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"


"Nothing Is More Beautiful Than Love...  Live Fearlessly"




"We Were Always There..."


"Nothing was better than this..."



"The Views To Love..."


Love



"A True Love Story..."


Micah & David
Our Story
Love at first sight...

On Saturday, October 12th, 2013, with no plans in mind, Micah decided to go out in Pittsburgh at just the same time that Dave decided to go out to a local pub in Shadyside. Micah stood on the other side of the room and noticed Dave. Dave was too shy to acknowledge Micah and that is when Micah decided to approach Dave. The next thing Dave knew, Micah was standing next to his left and staring at him with a smile that would never vanish. Dave blushed, looked at Micah, and struck up a conversation. This was the beginning of a conversation that would flip both of their worlds upside down!

Our First Date - How Romantic!

After 4 hours of deep conversation on Saturday night, October 12, 2013, Dave and Micah made plans to meet for dinner after work just 3 days later. On Tuesday, October 15, 2013, Dave and Micah had their first date at none other than The Double Wide Grill in Cranberry. Yes, you heard it right! The classy Double Wide Grill. As Dave watched Micah walk into the Grill, Dave knew that things would never be the same. As Micah walked into the Grill and saw Dave waiting for him, Micah knew that things would never be the same.

Absence makes the heart grow fonder!

After spending the week in Las Vegas for a friend's wedding, Micah returned home on the evening of Saturday, October 26th, 2013. Let's just say the separation anxiety (I never said who) was through the roof! Dave and Micah talked all night long and into the early Sunday morning hours. Dave and Micah both knew that they never wanted to spend another day apart from each other. On Sunday morning, October 27, 2013, Dave and Micah decided to commit to a relationship that would forever change their lives.


Our Engagement

Since Day 1, I have loved Dave and Dave has loved me. We knew that our future would hold an engagement sooner or later (Dave was hoping sooner than later) :) After several discussions, it was decided that when the timing was perfect.. completely perfect.. I, Micah, would ask Dave for his hand in marriage.




I knew that 2016 was the year that I was going to propose, but I wasn't sure when that day would happen. We decided to take a vacation out west to see our good friends, Jeff and Christine (Kiz) Demarais, while visiting the states of Oregon, Washington, and Idaho. Jeff and Kiz live in Washington but have roots in Portland, Oregon. After extensive planning and mapping out the trip with Jeff, I knew that I had several great options where to propose to Dave so I decided I would keep the ring in my pocket all week (not the best idea but it worked out). On Day 4 of our trip (May 30, 2016), it happened! I got down on one knee on the side of Mt. Hood, Oregon's tallest mountain standing 11,249 feet high. I never imagined that I would be proposing in the snow in the month of May, especially with flip flops on, but it was perfect and Dave was definitely taken by surprise!

Thank you, Jeff, for being on standby with the camera for 4 long, anxious days waiting to capture the moment!





From The Knot



"A Thought To Ponder..."


Why does one love? How queer it is to see only one being in the world, to have only one thought in one's mind, only one desire in the heart, and only one name on the lips--a name which comes up continually, rising, like the water in a spring, from the depths of the soul to the lips, a name which one repeats over and over again, which one whispers ceaselessly, everywhere, like a prayer.

- Guy de Maupassant



"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."


Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."


Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...


"Fear Eats the Soul"



"Adam and Andy..."



I love James Asal's "Adam and Andy" strip
Married life really is like this.




"The Whisper Of Truth..."


The Whisper app allows users in anonymity to share secrets.

"Fear Eats the Soul"



"The Imitation Of Life..."


Only Human - Set in London, two couples face the everyday trials of being gay.




"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2651"


"Even His Gentle Caress Says, I Love You..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.



"The Artist's Corner..."


"Rough Guy"
Oil on canvas
Kenney Mencher



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