Saturday, March 25, 2017

Friday, March 24, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love Is Life's Reason...  Live Fearlessly"

"The Truth About Love..."

Many waters cannot quench love, neither can floods drown it. What then kills love? Only this: Neglect.

- Jeanette Winterson

"The Views To Love..."

"It's True, Lovers Do Start To Look Alike..."

Amongst gay couples, it's often referred to as "A Boyfriend Twin"

"While you may be familiar with the old saying, “opposites attract,” in reality, what the heart wants is someone who resembles its owner and that resemblance increases the longer two lovebirds stay together.

University of Michigan psychologist Robert Zajonc conducted an experiment to test this phenomenon. He analyzed photographs of couples taken when they were newlyweds and photographs of the same couples taken 25 years later.

The results showed that the couples had grown to look more like each other over time. And, the happier that the couple said they were, the more likely they were to have increased in their physical similarity."

Read more about this interesting phenomenon here...

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"The Whisper Of Truth..."

The Whisper app allows users in anonymity to share secrets.

"Fear Eats the Soul"

"A True Love Story..."

Luke & Dean
An Engagement Story

“We had a house, a dog and a cat and were quite happy with that! We didn’t feel we needed a piece of paper.’ This is how Luke and Dean described their seven-and-a-half-year relationship. “But we don’t have many gay people nearby or in our family really, and with many of our friends and family getting married, it became quite important for us to do the same.” So began the engagement story of this incredibly charming British couple.

Well, actually, it really began in a nightclub in Birmingham where the two met “the good old fashion way, face-to-face in real life.” Luke was just back from a trip around the world on which he’d come to terms with being gay. He wasn’t out to his family yet and hadn’t planned on meeting anyone.

But, meet someone he did! Luke described seeing Dean for the first time: “I was quite shy. I am never shy. I pretended to be talking on my phone even though the battery had gone on it so as to not have to look him in the eye. I don’t know, I got all tingly with proper emotion.” Dean put it simply: “we just clicked.”
"I don’t know, I got all tingly with proper emotion!"
The shy act wasn’t long for the days as their first date found them at the famous Nightingale gay bar singing karaoke and Luke belting out the theme from “The Wonder Years.” From song to comedy, Luke “came ‘round to Dean’s to watch Alan Carr. Then more “mini dates,”” Luke came out to his supportive family, they moved in together after two years and “that was it, really!”

Once Luke decided he wanted to get engaged, he turned to Dean’s mother for permission. “Family is really important to us and we are all very close.” Luke asked his family and all their friends. “By the time I finally asked him, everyone but Dean already knew about it!” So, it was just a matter of finding the right moment.

"Iceland is one of the most gay friendly places we've been!" 

That moment came while the couple were in Iceland to celebrate Luke’s 30th. “Iceland is one of the most gay-friendly places in the world,” Dean mentioned. Luke went on: “We were on a tour and came to this gorgeous waterfall and I just thought right, this is it, but I didn’t want to do it in front of the group,” getting momentarily shy, once again. And, as Luke got down on one knee, Dean commented: “are you doing up your shoelace!” But, soon as Dean had asked this question, Dean knew that he was being asked the question.

The moment Dean and Luke became engaged!

Luke presented him with a ring, one that had sentimental value and a story behind it. “I’d gotten this ring for Dean for his 30th birthday.” Luke had pretended to be getting the ring polished, in order to get his hands on it. “Gay men don’t quite know what to do about an engagement ring, but I thought the ring I’d given him already had meaning.” “We didn’t even really know what finger to wear it on. Dean’s is on his right ring finger, mine is on my middle one.” Dean “re-gave” Luke a ring he’d given as part of his 30th birthday celebration.

Picture says it all! 

Now, the couple is on to planning their wedding for summer ’18. They wanted a long engagement so they could really plan the wedding they wanted, “you know, have the flowers we want and make sure our guests can make a mini-holiday of it,” said Luke. “I had already seen the venue and decided I’d wanted to get married there,” said Dean of Tunnels Beaches, a Victorian-era bathing complex in Devonshire. When they visited it together, they both nearly came to tears realizing how perfect this seaside locale would be for their big day.

“Our guests can make a mini-holiday out of it,” said Luke. “And, it lends itself to my eccentric ideas and to all of Dean’s ideas for music.” The couple has quite the program planned for their wedding, which we will keep under wraps until we have the privilege of sharing their wedding summer after next.

Tunnels Beaches, Devonshire.

But, when asked what advice they’d share with couple about to get engaged, they answered simply:

“Go for it. Life is too short. If you feel love for one another, just celebrate. If you show that honesty, everyone is going to be on par with it.”

Luke continued: “Getting married isn’t a process, it is a celebration.” We couldn’t agree more.

From Mens Vow

"Selfie Love..."

 "Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"The Things That Love Says..."

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2647"

"Home Is Where The Heart Is..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"A Thought To Ponder..."

"The Artist's Corner..."

"Naked Nap"
Watercolor on paper
Brenden Sanborn

Thursday, March 23, 2017

"Gay PDA Is Okay!"

"Love Everywhere...  Live Fearlessly"

"It's Not So Funny..."

The who you know...
The what, too

"This Made Me Smile..."

"When love breaks out during a porn shoot...?"

"Same Gender Loving People - No. 2646"

"Love Makes Life A Grand Adventure..."

Positive images of people like me... The truth of the matter is that we all need to see people like ourselves. So everyday, I'll post a photo, drawing or some other artwork that depicts Same Gender Loving People as what we are... Only Human.

"The Things That Love Says..."

"Selfie Love..."

 "Selfie Love" - those beautiful, grainy, out-of-focus self-pics that capture the truth of true love...

"A True Love Story..."

Tom & Terry

It isn’t just any couple that puts the early days of their relationship on national television, but Tom and Terry did just that. In fact, one could say much of their relationship has been one that they’ve shared with others.

The two met in 2004 at a “Date Bait” speed-dating event at the LGBT Community Center in New York. Tom was on his own; Terry with a group of friends. And, despite the crowd, Terry set his eyes on Tom. “I was flattered by his attentions, because I could tell he was a good guy.” And, before long, the two were on their first date, at a restaurant on the Upper West Side.

One loves his partner because of and despite his idiosyncrasies. And, while Tom and Terry didn’t fall in love on that first date, theirs was a moment of fully appreciating the other. Terry is, what one could say, specific about what he eats, and not in the way that the body conscious among us can be. Nothing green can garnish the plate, and he avoids onion and garlic at all costs. Often times he cobbles together his meal by two entrees given that one has something he will eat and, more importantly, something he won’t. For some, experiencing this on a first date might result in it being the last. Not so with Tom and Terry.

“He was probably going “oh god, what have I gotten in to?” when he heard me ordering,” said Terry. But, for Tom, his real feeling was that “he was comfortable and confident being himself around me.”

The couple on The Amazing Race!

18-months later, the relationship literally took off as the two submitted their audition for the 2006 season of “The Amazing Race” and landed a spot on the show pursuing adventures around the world. Four episodes in, after a challenge involving Terry eating fish eyeballs in China, the two fell short on a challenge involving a leaky sampan boat in Vietnam.

What marked their appearance on the show for viewers was the fact that the two got along famously throughout all of their challenges. Others that season were less amicable with each other. More importantly, what mattered about the show for the couple was what great partners they were to each other. It was on the show that one could say Tom and Terry identified each other as the one.

They didn’t get engaged until nearly a decade later. Among other reasons, the two were waiting for same-sex marriage to be legalized. But, as Terry also said: “we were just slow in the planning!” This is a charming comment given Terry’s long career in the events business!

But, when the time came, the two did it in the style they and their friends and family had gotten used to: publicly. And, better than attempt to describe it - though it is nothing short of Amazing and you’ll see why – have a look at it here:

When it came to planning, first things were first: the guest list. As Tom said, “once we knew how many we were inviting, we could begin looking for venues. And, we looked at every venue that could fit our guests.” Whitby Castle in Rye, NY, the very last venue on their list, was to be the one. “We love winter weddings so when it started snowing while we were on our walk-through, we knew we’d be getting married there.” A castle seems about right for 230 guests!

The style of the wedding was dictated by Whitby Castle, which the couple described as “regal, but homey.” But, more importantly, their theme was family. Throughout the castle Tom and Terry included photos of their relatives. During the actual ceremony, they created one centerpiece as a tribute to loved ones who had passed away. Their siblings served as their “best siblings” and all of their godchildren were included in the ceremony.

Tom and Terry planned everything together. Because of Terry’s deep experience planning events, Tom “armed himself” with various apps to help understand the process. “I drove Terry crazy because I was always six months ahead of where things really needed to be!” Meanwhile, Terry was wondering how he’d be able to top all his years of experience. The answer was simple. As he said: “this was not an event, it was personal and had to be about family and fun.” And, there were others on the day who helped ensure we wouldn’t be working the whole time.

Their dear friend, a theater company director from Philadelphia, officiated and surprised them both by having interviewed Tom and Terry’s parents, including their words in the ceremony. Keeping things personal, the couple wrote their own vows and did so surrounded by generations of their family members.

As Tom said about the ceremony, “it was the coming together of like-minded people.” Terry continued to say: “My favorite moment of the wedding was when everyone stood to celebrate and affirm our marriage. The energy in the room was amazing.”

To go into too much detail about the reception would be to take away from the surprise that the couple pulled off for all of their guests. They, along with 26 waiters, coordinated a surprise flashmob. Tom said: “we wanted to keep things fun and memorable!” And for Terry, the real coup was managing to surprise his event colleagues who “would have never guessed it would be the waiters!”

Tom’s favorite moment was dancing with his husband to their dear friend and recording artist, Anne Steele, singing a slow version of her song: “Love Can Take Us There.” , along with the New York City Gospel Choir backing her up.  This was their first dance that ended with all of their wedding guests on the dance floor dancing, hands clapping, with lit up "T's" given as wedding favors. About the dance floor, Tom went on to advise: “stay out there as long as you can.” In the throes of the ceremony and reception, he described interactions as a “hi drive by” but on the dance floor “people really get to spend time with you.”

The couple asked their guests to make contributions to charities dear to the family and to a honeymoon fund. Immediately following the wedding, the two made their way to Canyon Ranch for a mini-moon and to a later honeymoon in Bora Bora.

A couple so clearly matched, devoted to family and inclusive of others, we hope that they continue to share their love for life and each other with the world. Their's is An Amazing Life the world should experience and emulate.

From Mens Vows


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